According to urbandictionary.com, a “crap mate” is all the benefits of being in a relationship except shit like not doing enough for Valentine’s Day or his birthday, not spending 3 months of salary on a stupid ring and Not spending enough quality time with her.
“Sex with Lisa is great, but it’s a headache. I wish we could be fucking friends and not boyfriends.”
I am (22, f) and my friend (29, M) is compromising our agreement.
We are new in this configuration. We both want only sex and nothing else. He told me that he will not have any relationship with me.
Here it goes……
He wants me to spend the night with him, even all day. He wants me to stay after sex and for later care that I oppose.
I told him that I would leave after the sexual marathon is over and that I don’t have any further care since I want to have my personal space and, what is worse, I don’t want him to be vulnerable and deranged after sex.
He wants to snuggle up and sleep beside me. Do it as a “pillow.” It scares me so much. I also told him that the faces of the morning are for someone special to see, not for a friend.
I am afraid of the intimacy that will lead to developing feelings towards the other person and I just want to pass out after sex and be alone.
Am I being rude to him or is it normal for us to be a “wham bam thanks mom” arrangement?
Is it okay to have intimacy with each other or a normal scenario for a friend setup?
If so, how intimate is intimate? What are the limits?
I just don’t want to spoil it because it’s a good match. Hahaha
In most cases, bullshit partners are not planned. It just seems to happen by itself. Unlike love, the characteristic of local friends is that there is no planning, there are no first impressions and there are no sincere gifts. And the rest seems to happen alone.
I am and have always been completely desperate in relationships and have turned to casual fwbs and fucking friends. The problem is that my relationship with these fwbs / local fuck buddies is always sour and it is always the same thing that happens: the boy tells his friends that I am in love with him, that he regrets being hooked on me, that I am completely obsessed when that definitely does not This is the case (you can argue that I am and I have no evidence against that, but for the purpose of this publication trust me that I am not)
Why do my relationships with my FWB fail? What are some simple rules about fwbs? What do men think about being bullshit friends?
edit: ok so to clarify, this is what usually happens. See you at the university, we greet each other but we don’t talk. We do not send text messages, we are friends on Facebook but we have no communication. When we go out to drink, he usually finds me after a couple of hours and the fun starts from there. The next morning he complains to his friends about his regret.
Very simple, I want to separate myself from my crappy friend. It literally makes no sense to see it, since he doesn’t care about anything. We always meet when he wants and never when I do. I’ve had feelings for him for months, which only ruins me the most. We used to have this strange relationship that was simply perfect; No expectations, but very close and attentive. I would introduce myself to everyone and spend hours talking all night. It may seem childish, but I guess he comes with our society today, he has never liked my photos on Instagram, but he likes so many other photos of girls, including this girl he used to fuck and had lied to me about her. Recently something really intense happened in my life that he knows and didn’t even recognize him. I know we are not in a relationship and I cannot expect him to be there for me, which I do not do, but recognizing what someone may suffer is the least that can be done. Anyway, I just want to get over it and move on.
I need the advice to handle 3 friends/girlfriends fucked
Look, you came here for help. Be more specific. Do these women fuck friends or girlfriends?
I told all three that I would not see anyone else.
First of all, a friend … You made your bed with this. If you really want to keep more than one at a time, you must be honest about what you are doing. The idea that you have to lie about it is based on a misconception: that women won’t want something like this … casual sex with a guy who is seeing more than one girl.
This is simply not true. It’s just that most girls usually have one of three options. A drunk night, kissing with a friend or something, and boyfriends.
but sooner or later you will discover it because we are all from very close areas and it is a matter of time before it is a party and everyone will be there and try to be with me …
What were you thinking? That you really didn’t care about your social circles? If these girls NEVER compare notes or solve it because friends of friends filter the information between them … SANTA MIERDA. It will be like when Carthage was burned and the earth was salted.
Any recommendations/advice on what to do or how to handle the situation without everyone being angry?
You have already given up your ability to influence the situation in a way that prevents you from hearing about your lies.
Your only option, besides discarding two of them immediately, is to tell them the truth now, to apologize for not telling them before (not giving excuses or trying to explain why), and giving them the option of obtaining if they don’t want something casual.
I have never really understood the concept of having/being a crappy friend. Is it just simply sex? Are you connected on an intellectual level or not connected? Have you ever fallen in love with someone who was your fucking friend? How does it work? I am completely clueless.